The Art of Balanced Decisions

Love is the power of harmony, balance, and oneness. Therefore, our love-based decisions naturally make our life more balanced and harmonized. They give us a lasting feeling of well-being and happiness.

Love perceives the world as the great Whole. It means that if we affect one part of the Whole, all other parts will be affected. And since we ourselves are a part of the same Whole, we will be affected, too. In this or that form, that which we give will come back to us. This is why it makes a great difference what kind of impact do we make. If we cause harm, we will experience harm. If we enrich others, we will be enriched. It is not up to us to know when and how exactly it will happen, but it will happen. Through ages, countless number of people proved it to themselves and passed this knowledge down to their children and grandchildren.

If you, perchance, think that this principle of Oneness is too dogmatic and restricting, you may try and prove that it actually works. To do that, you don’t need to go around and cause harm to others, looking to probe whether you will experience negative consequences. Any real law works both ways. Begin to be a positive influence, and you will find a sufficient proof. Your life will be changed to the better in so many ways. But as you do good, remember to do it freely and without attachment to persons and results of your actions. Never consider particular people to be your debtors. You will get your compensation from the universe, not from them.

It is not necessary to understand all that in order to love. Most of loving people do not rationalize their love. It is enough for them to follow their heart. You can begin to express that which is within you, too, in words, thoughts, and actions – and the way ahead will become clear.

When your actions are love-based, you are looking for win-win solutions in dealing with people. You are trying to manage your affairs so that all the persons involved in your life would get the best from your interactions. Acting in the spirit of love, you don’t want to win by making others to lose – but you don’t want to lose either. You don’t want to be neither a victim, nor an abuser. This attitude might open for you new possibilities of cooperation you’ve never considered before.

Love is the power of harmony, and it brings to balance all the aspects of your own life. First, you accept them all without reservations: your strengths and your weaknesses, your gifts and your deficiencies. You give them all proper recognition, attention, and respect. Then, you might give some extra attention to those areas you’ve neglected in the past. If you’ve pursued intellectual development, now you begin to take care of your emotions. If you’ve been too emotional, now you are doing your best to consult with reason. If you’ve always been lively and outgoing, now you find time for quiet reflections and daydreaming. You are also doing your best to be in good physical shape and take care of your outward appearance.

Balanced decisions are also flexible. They aren’t commandments engraved on stone tablets. As the flow of life changes its course, you are free to change, too. Now you can move in a new direction, but with the same attitude.

© 2009 by Andrei Yashurin